BEING SINGLE

It's Valentine's Day, or what some singles call SAD--Singles Awareness Day--or what Hallmark calls “BIG MONEY HOLIDAY” (there’s no proof of this, but I reckon so).

Personally I think the entire holiday is silly. If you can't surprise me on non holidays with sweet gestures, don't do it because you were forced to after seeing aisles of pink and red.

Also I don't like chocolate candies (weird, I know).

On the real, do your thang with your boo. Have fun, all that jazz.

But more than that, if you're single and this day bothers you, don't let it. So you're single. It's OK, it's fine. I get it, but at the end of the day, it's not abnormal or weird.

I say this because I’ve realized it's a major worry to be 28 and not in a relationship...to other people.

"When are you getting married?" When I feel like I'm dating someone I can take that step with.

"You have to have kids soon!" I do? Is that a law? I'm so confused. And are you financially going to help? Dropping a couple of thousand in the account? Diapers, clothing, medical expenses...these things add up. Sure you took that into concern when you asked, right? So you know I'm trying to prep the best way just in case I'm a single parent (reality here).

And also, did you ask if I wanted kids? Maybe I don't want them right now.
         
"But you will one day." Maybe I won't. Maybe with my increase chances of having a miscarriage I don't want to go through the pain.

Maybe there's that, "I'm going to screw my child up" fear, or maybe I really just don't want to have kids. I like them and I think they're adorable, and I’m so happy for my friends who have them because I can play with them then hand them back when they get a stinky diaper or spit up, but maybe I reaaaaaaallly don't want any or my own. Or maybe I’ll adopt.

Maybe I'll change my mind. Maybe I won’t.

All these maybes.

What I do know: being over 25, single and no kids (or single with kids) is OK. There's nothing wrong with it, like there's nothing wrong with the latter.

So happy Valentines Day if you like it. If you don’t, have a great weekend. Stay in bed. Watch a marathon of HGTV. Go out to eat with friends. Don’t worry about not having someone to slap your butt. Slap your own.

Until next time,
C